Person: Wow, you’re quite succesful at your age. You’ve got a great job, how did you get it?
Me: Well, I was born in a home that encouraged education, in a country that was willing to pay for my education, with the privilege of having a passport so I could go to that education. None of my mental struggles, family deaths or coming out moments occurred at a time when I desperately needed to graduate (okay, maybe one did). And during my education, I didn’t have to deal with a lot of discrimination weighing down on me every day. While my youth was far from happy, it never seriously hampered my education. After I graduated, I had the extreme luck of finding the one advertisement for a job interview that fit my abilities perfectly and thanks to even more luck the employer spotted that too. And then he ended up not discriminating me based on sex, gender, race, religion etc. I don’t think my boss would have discriminated me if I was less privileged than I am, but I can’t be sure. Now I live in a society that values my title and the piece of paper citing my education much higher than any skills I possess, even though there are much more skilled people looking for work without the same papers. And while I don’t get payed much, I have the safety of not having to worry about money every day which allows me to excel even further. And based on that, society likes to accord me more respect than they would other humans and pretend that it’s all my accomplishment!
Person: That’s not the answer I was expecting.
Me: And I still left out so much.
I realized last week that I am one of the very rare female electrical engineering majors because my Dad’s an electrical engineer and saw no reason why a girl couldn’t be interested in computers or math. He gave me his old computers, starting when I was two. Because of this early exposure I am very good at IT, and have a job doing that- at an electrical engineering company, where I got my job originally because of my Photoshop skills. I learned how to use Photoshop at age 5. Working at an electrical engineering company looks amazing on my resume.
I was so lucky in so many ways. I had lots of weird health problems ranging from a really nasty otitis media/externa that had me on IV antibiotics after everything else failed to chronic migraines. Without health insurance I would have been held back several grades. I nearly was held back twice, despite my excellent grades, because of those damn migraines and all the school I missed.
I live in a city that has one of the best high schools in the entire country, as well as a very good public university that I can cheaply attend while living at home. I will have no student loans.
My classmates and parents were all very accepting of me being a lesbian.
I have had Internet access since I was seven.
The family library is several hundred books and twenty-five years of National Geographic, as well as fifteen years of Scientific American, and I read all of those. The Scientific Americans in particular were very helpful.
And that’s not half of it. Your post reminded me of that bout of thinking while trying to fall asleep. Luck plays a large role in people’s lives. I would love to say “I did all that by myself,” but I didn’t.
LOOK AT THIS POOR OPPRESSED WOMAN AND WHAT HER COUNTRY IS MAKING HER DO.
Even in her eyes it says “help me”.
This is why we have to stop these misogynistic societies.
I’m sorry but no. I acknowledg that this is terrible, but don’t you think we should fix our own countries mishaps before we deal in other countries affairs? We have corrupt businesses, crime, poverty, homelessness, and believe it or not starvation.
Does anyone even know the threat that walmart has to this country?!
I hope you’re being ironic ouo
everything about this is horrible tbh
Isn’t that Benedict Cumberbatch?
That’s Benedict Cumberbatch.
Guys that’s obviously Benedict Cumberbatch.
Oh my god I’ve never imagined this situation
IVE BE EN LAGUHING FOR THE PAST 500 YEARS
OMGGG YOU GUYS
i was like “aw ben” until i saw the oppressed woman comment and i went like “wat”
If you’re lesbian and you fall for a guy
If you’re gay and you fall for a woman
If you’re bisexual and you have a preference for girls
If you’re bisexual and you have a preference for guys
If you’re pansexual and have a preference
What’s not fine is telling someone they can’t love another person because it doesn’t fit into the confinements of a label.
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
This makes me feel so much better